Shaming of Survival Mechanisms
… survival mechanisms can be deeply embedded within our chakra systems, nervous systems and endocrine systems, so we literally are wired to respond in a certain way.
I’ve recently had to let go of the expectations I had about how I wanted someone to show up in my life when, in the context of that persons life, they were unrealistic. I could easily validate my expectations through popular psychology and spiritual wisdom, though that would have been by-passing my attachment to my wounding of being let down. I could feel the entanglement of this wounding snake round the clarity of understanding I had about the situation and no matter how I tried, it kept pulling me back.
It was only with the support of a dear friend that I was able to gain enough distance of what was happening to then work through it further myself.
And this wounding was both ancient, going all the way back to the original separation, and of my experiences in this lifetime.
There were quite a few layers, some of which I have worked on before. Underneath it all was a survival mechanism, now these act a little like fuses in an electric circuit - they are there for your safety. They can be inherited and/or encoded through an epigenetic process and are triggered when your survival is threatened.
Though being let down in current society doesn’t necessarily equate with a survival issue, there were times when it was. And so these survival mechanisms are obsolete, even though they are still functioning, robust and unnecessarily protecting us. They can be really frustrating when we’re conscious enough to know that we are looping in something that is both invalid, yet intangible. When we’ve done our work and looked at everything and still can’t find the off switch.
By-passing is a safety mechanism
So it’s easy to call the behaviour that this may create by-passing. When the by-passing in itself is a safety mechanism, even if it is no longer required. So to shame ourselves or others experiencing this is not helpful or supportive. I understood enough about what was going on for me to able to communicate it - and in this case the person was supportive, not shaming. But this served as a reminder to me of how often I’ve seen this occur in spiritual communities as well as witness others, whether as clients or in groups, experience similar processes and be shamed.
These survival mechanisms can be deeply embedded within our chakra systems, nervous systems and endocrine systems, so we literally are wired to respond in a certain way. It takes much work to unravel what is required before we can even get to the underlying safety mechanisms.
I have well established techniques to release these with ease once they have been identified, it’s a complex process at the level of the Human Blueprint.
Though if you wish to try working with it yourself first: once you have an awareness that a survival mechanism is at play - tune in to it, acknowledge it, recognise how it has both hindered you and served you, then release it from it’s service to you with gratitude. Those of you who have a well established connection with your guidance teams may wish to call on them for further spiritual support and clarification..
This may be enough or it may be a start, and though being aware of such mechanisms is empowering - do reach out for assistance if required.
With much love,
from my Heart
to yours,
Tania Aurora White Crow